Why are millennials staying single?

  • Millennials have embranced the single life more than ever today
  • 81 percent of the respondents believe that being single positively affected their lives
  • Being single allows opportunities to focus on their career, their relationships, and their personal growth. 

There is an age-old narrative in society that marriage is the end-all-be-all in someone’s relationship life. It’s the goal, having a partner, tying the knot, and settling down and start a family. And while that narrative is still very much present in most Asian countries, the newer generations – the millennials, and the Generation Zs are just not buying much into the narrative anymore. 

A 2014 Pew Research Center report found that only 26% of millennials were married in 2013, compared to 48% of baby boomers and 36% of Generation X-ers who tied the knot at the same age. 

Today, most young people are actively choosing to be single. Last year, Tinder recently released the results of its survey entitled “Single not Sorry.” There, 1,036 single adults ages 18-25 were asked their perceptions about the single life, including if they were consciously choosing to live a single life and why they chose that path for them. The results of the survey revealed striking insight. 

81 percent of the respondents believe that being single positively affected their lives. In fact, most answered that being single benefitted their work, their friendships, and as well as their personal fitness and wellness. 

Despite previous generations, millennials bear no stigma over being single. Instead, it’s a lifestyle choice. 72 percent of the respondents have consciously made the decision to stay single for a period of time, in order to focus on other aspects of their life, such as their careers, their friends and family, and their personal growth. 

GQ reports that according to Dr. Darcy Sterling, Tinder’s dating and relationship trend expert says “Gen Z and young millennials are very aware of the opportunities this world has to offer. Friends, work and school are all important elements that help build their happiness, with excelling in their personal lives being their biggest focus, often prioritizing it ahead of relationships,” she says.

This cultural paradigm shift when it comes to marriage and relationships seem to propagate the idea of “anti-marriage,” but that’s actually not the case either. True, that millennials choose to stay single longer, but USA Today brings up a recent statistic that millennials are just marrying later than the previous generations – and they’re actually staying together at higher rates once they do settle down. 

USA Today further explains that 40 percent of millennials said that they weren’t willing to settle for the wrong person to find a long-term relationship. 

This isn’t an alarming change. Society has a cohort that finally embraces the ideals and the benefits of being single. Millennials have always had a bad reputation when it comes to ‘changing’ whatever it is they’re changing – whether it’s how they eat avocadoes or their preferences with body soap. But this change in the norm allows millennials opportunities of self-discovery and growth. 

Sources: Mic, GQ, Psychology Today

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